Emerging from Your Empty Nest: Today may be gone...But the days to come are still worthy

When you have become an Empty Nester, it is important to distinguish what you are experiencing emotionally, intellectually and more. Understand what you are feeling about these same aspects.  Here are some questionable thoughts by example to explore:

• Are you feeling sad because the children are gone?

• Are you feeling sad because there are less people in the house to care for or cook etc.?

• Are you feeling sad because the house is empty, and you no longer have direct interaction with your children?

• Are you feeling out of sorts because you feel like your best friend has left you?

• Are you sad because you do not know what to do with yourself or with your spouse now that the tables have turned?

By not confronting your empty nest issues other problems can escalate between you and your spouse/partner and even within yourself that can bring about more sadness, more loss of feeling towards things that initially made you happy, bring about separation or divorce and more. Individually, you may lose what it is you love about yourself and your own interest; your own mind-print because you have been so involved with your children and that primary mind-print was your children.

In the beginning, you can feel wonderful about the kids leaving home. Some may feel the complete opposite where feelings are more on the empty feeling side of things. But in either case, it is important to embark on a fanatical plan to either keep the excitement going and or bring an uplift to a more sadden, depressive state in your life and life with your spouse.

Acceptance is always a keep factor for most things in life that we have no control over. Once there is acceptance, you now can feel open to other interests. By that, I mean rewrite your life script as an empty nester couple where your destination is to explore and possibly reconnect. You can still involve your adult children in your life that have moved on; just must be creative in how you do it and how often. Be sure to respect your children’s life schedules as well as your children have a life of their own too and adjusting. Take baby steps in the beginning and then build on those steps over time toward your REDESIGN of letting go and embracing more on the other type of life you get to have with hopefully elated and interesting fun. If you feel you need assistance in discussing your feelings and working out these steps you can always contact a life coach or if it is something more clinical then you would contact a mental health professional. But, in either case, you need to start somewhere.

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